Mindset: Mind to Setting Your Mind?

"Change your beliefs and you change your destiny"

~Sterling W. Sill~

Many people talk about Mindset, but honestly, only a few who truly understand the meaning of word "mindset". When I ask "what is mindset?" to the fans of various motivated books and seminars, the answer I frequently get are: "Mindset is mindset. Mindset is the attitude. Mindset is the key of success. Mindset is the way we think."

Mindset is made up of two words:


Mind

1. Seat of thought and memory, the center of consciousness that generates thoughts, feelings, ideas, and perceptions, and stores knowledge and memories.

Set

1. A preference of increased ability in a particular activity.
2. Condition of solidity.

Mindset

1. Beliefs that affect someone's attitude, a set of belief or a way of thinking that determine somebody's behavior and outlook.
2. A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person's response to an interpretations of situations.

From the definition above, we know that mindset is belief, or set of belief, or a way of thinking that influence someone’s behavior and attitudes, and finally, it will determine the level of success in their life (read: fate). So, if we want to change our mindset, we should actually change our belief or set of belief.

Did you know? That the meaning of attitude is personal view of something/an opinion or general feeling about something. In other words, attitude influence our feelings or emotions at a time.

Now, the question is “Why so many people is very difficult to change?” In order to understand it, I will explain what I’ve learned from a Transformational Thinking Master, Dr. Bill Gould.

Triune Human System

According to the philosophy of Transformational Thinking, human consists of three systems: Behavior System, Thinking System, and Belief System.

Behavior system is our way to interact with the outside world and interact with reality as well as we understand our own reality. Our behavior influences our experience, as well as vice versa. Next, this experience will affect our thinking system. If someone tries to change our system behavior, we usually will decline and angry.

Thinking System work as a two-way filter to translate the various events or experiences, so that become our belief. Then it will affect our behavior, that create reality for ourselves. By learning the skills of thinking in a new way, we can change our belief and behavior system.

Belief system is the core of everything we believe as reality, truth, values of life, and everything that we know about this world. So difficult to change it.

Readers, try to imagine the following situation. You find a cave that contains a lot of treasure trove box. The problem is, each box is made from iron which is very thick and locked with strong padlocks. You can not open these padlock without using the match keys.

Then, you’re follow the instructions of treasure trove map that you’re bring, eventually you find some padlock keys stored behind a secret chamber.

A new problem has come. You’re find 10 bundle of key, and each bundle contains 500 keys that have similar shape.

What will you do? Do you want to try to enter each key? How long does it take to be able to open that treasure trove box?

How do you feel when, in fact, you don’t need to try all the keys to enter each padlock? What if you’re also find — in other secret chamber — a master key that can be used to open all of padlocks. Do you still want to try to open these padlock with that 10 bundle of key ? I hope not.

Do you know, what’s the content of treasure trove that I describe above? Is it golden, jewel, or other valuable material? It’s more than gold and diamond, it’s potential-self . Right, potential-self. If we can open, recognize, develop, and exploit these potential-self that locked in a treasure trove box of mind, and locked by the padlock of stupidity, ignorance, and passivity — strengthened with various bad concept of life and negative beliefs — we will experience the transformation and revolution in all aspect of our lives.

Belief is the master key to the extraordinary, effective, efficient and permanent transformation. When our belief changed, self-talk, perceptions, emotions, and our paradigm will be changed. Thus, our behavior will also change.

Can we change our belief easily?

Hmmm….. maybe yes, maybe no…

It’s easy if we know how, and it’s hard if we don’t know.

There are several factors that cause changes are very difficult or even impossible to be done:

1. We feel we don’t have a problem
2. We want to change, but we don’t know how
3. We didn’t want to change, even though we know how
4. We’re afraid, maybe a change will bring negative impact to us
5. We don’t know the right way to be able to enter unconscious mind
6. The way we used to modify belief is less precise, or even incorrect.

All obstacles in the process of change — whether we face it intentionally or unintentionally — are the result of the biggest power in human behavior, named homeostasis.

Homeostasis is the tendency to always stay in the same position. Homeostasis isn’t bad, because it intends to protect ourselves from the sudden change that we don’t want — due to bad influences of someone else or bad environment. However, homeostasis can be a resistor when we want to change ourselves for better purpose. This means homeostasis will keep watch our central balance in mind. This central balance called comfort zone.

Any changes that we do will get resistance from homestasis. The amount of rejection can be measured with the intensity of discomfort feelings when the changes will be implemented.

Resistance is a defense mechanism of subconscious mind which intends to protect ourselves from discomfort situation.

Actually, changes isn’t painful thing. Resistance to this process is the reason why it feels like something painful.

Next: Construction Process of Belief

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